Tips from the other experts to help you write the best vows
Hi, it's me again with some advice on writing your beach wedding vows, or your vow renewal vows. I've been in the business for quite some time and I always think I've seen it all.
But someone comes along that proves me wrong. LOL. You know, you've been to the wedding where the bride had beautiful vows written and the groom just stood there and tried to improvise. OMG. So this post is great for everyone to read. Here we go!
Wedding Vow Tips
Don't wait until the last minute. Plan to have your vows written two weeks before your wedding. You don't want to be doing your wedding finishing touches and writing a love letter to your spouse at the same time.
Make a list of all your thoughts. Jot down all the things that come to mind about your spouse or marriage. Revisit these notes later and highlight your favorite items to be the starting points for your vows.
Write drafts. Write a couple of drafts and go back and reread them two or three times, but try to stop there. Don't overthink it. Speak from your heart.
Don't try to include everything. It's understandable to want to fit everything you're feeling into your vows—but you can't LOL. Your guests won't be happy sitting listening to you for hours, LOL.
Embrace sentimentality. This isn't the time to worry about being corny or cheesy. Be as corny as you always wanted to be :)
Go after laughter. The ability to make your significant other smile and even laugh out loud during your ceremony will serve you well in your marriage. Your guests will surely join in the laughing.
Get inspired by books, songs, movies, and poems. If you have a favorite line from a movie or song that expresses your feelings, use it as a starting point. Even if nobody but your spouse understands the meaning, that's enough. The vows are for each other anyways.
Practice reading out loud. The only way to make sure everything sounds perfect is to hear it out. Read it to a friend, your mom, or even your dog. Your dad might fall asleep listening but you will get a big cry out of your mom.
Make a fresh copy of your vows for the ceremony. It's important to think about how the vows will look when they come into public view. Rewrite or reprint a fresh copy, or consider reading them from vow books or even your phone. Do what makes sense for you.
Keep the vows a secret from your partner until the ceremony. It will make the ceremony all the more impactful and emotional if you're hearing them for the first time. Believe me I've seen grown men crying out loud during vows and it's the sweetest thing ever.
Wedding Vow Template
Say "I love you."
Tell your partner you'll be there through thick and thin. Like all marriages, you will go through good and bad times, hopefully, more of the first. Although bad times usually strengthen the bond between a couple in my experience, we still don't want a lot of those. LOL
Share personal stories. Guests absolutely love when you share stories. Make it short, sweet, and fun.
Actually make promises. Vows aren't just cute anecdotes—they are a promise and serious commitment that you’re making in front of a whole lot of witnesses.
Acknowledge the support you'll need from others. You've gathered your friends and family to celebrate your wedding, but you'll need them just as much during your marriage, or more, so why not tell them now and also thank them for what they've done so far.
You Can Do It
It's a lot to write your own wedding vows, summing up your love, dreams, and promises to your partner in a few short minutes. Overwhelming as it can be, it's well worth it: It's a chance to tell your story, give guests a peek into what makes your relationship great, and share meaningful words with the person you love.
You can do it! If you need any help, I'm always here for you.